Thinking through these questions in advance may take the pressure off when the moment arrives.
What has made you think about fertility preservation now?
If your decision was made before meeting your partner this may be significant – ultimately, it’s a very personal choice and not a reflection on them or your current relationship.
Do you have a timeline in mind?
Conversations around fertility preservation could lead to discussions around future family planning. Remember that it’s OK to not have an answer – preserving your fertility gives you the flexibility to start a family when it’s right for you, and you may not know when that is yet.
Respect the fact that – where a partner is concerned – this conversation could lead them to consider and work through their own thoughts on a future family, something they may not have done before.
How much will this cost?
Depending on the stage and nature of your relationship, financial implications for you may mean financial implications for your partner. Consider in advance what these implications might be and how much you want to share.
How will this affect our day-to-day life and how many procedures will there be?
Remember that your knowledge of fertility preservation may be far greater than that of your partner! They are likely to be interested in the process, so think through what you feel comfortable sharing, as well as what might impact them and how much you would like for them to get involved.
What can they do to support you?
Think carefully about what help and support would be useful before, during and after your journey, and be as open and honest as you can. For example, would you like them to accompany you to appointments?
Is this something you are ready for other people to know about?
Consider in advance if you’re happy for your partner to discuss your journey with others; you might find it takes the pressure off you if they can share it with some key people, or you might not feel comfortable with that. The decision is completely up to you.